Surrounded By Psychopaths by Thomas Erikson Hindi English Mix Explanation

Surrounded By Psychopaths

By Thomas Erikson

Warning

"Surrounded by Psychopaths" kitab Thomas Erikson dwara likhi gayi hai jo batati hai kaise aap apne aap ko manipulative aur exploitative logon se bacha sakte hain, khaaskar un logon se jinke paas psychopathic tendencies hain. Important points hain:

• 1. Professional Help: Agar aapne trauma experience kiya hai ya aapko lagta hai ki aap manipulate ho rahe hain, to professional help lein. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) bahut madadgar ho sakti hai.
• 2. Self-Education: Agar professional help lena sambhav nahi hai, to kam se kam khud ko psychopathy aur manipulation tactics ke baare mein credible sources se educate karein. Kitab mein further reading ke liye resources diye gaye hain.
• 3. Trust Issues: Trust ko hamesha current behavior par base karke banaiye, na ki past actions par. Logon ko evaluate karein ki wo aaj aapko kaise treat kar rahe hain.
• 4. Vigilance: Jaise gaadi chalate samay aapko apne surroundings par dhyan rakhna padta hai taaki accident na ho, waise hi logon ke saath interact karte samay bhi aapko vigilant rehna zaroori hai taaki aap manipulate na ho.
• 5. Behavior Analysis: Human behavior ko samajhne ke liye DISC model madadgar ho sakta hai. DISC model behavior ko char types mein divide karta hai (Red for dominance, Yellow for influence, Green for stability, Blue for compliance).

Misuse

• 1. Manipulative Behavior: Kuch log behavior types ke information ko dusron ko manipulate karne ke liye use kar sakte hain. Isme DISC system ko use karke logon ki weaknesses ko exploit karna shamil hai.
• 2. Psychopathic Tendencies: Kitab highlight karti hai ki psychopathic individuals in insights ka misuse kar sakte hain apne faayde ke liye, bina dusron ko nuksan pohchane ki parvah kiye.
• 3. Ethical Responsibility: Human behavior ke knowledge ko ethically aur responsibly use karna chahiye. Sabko respect aur kindness ke saath treat karna chahiye, unke behavioral type ke hisaab se nahi.
• 4. Awareness and Protection: Manipulation tactics ke baare mein aware rehne se aap apne aap ko exploit hone se bacha sakte hain. Hamesha logon ke actions ke peeche ki intentions ke baare mein cautious rahein, khaaskar agar wo bahut achhe lagte hain.
• 5. Avoiding Paranoia: Jabki risks ke baare mein aware rehna zaroori hai, par overly paranoid hone ki zaroorat nahi hai. Har koi aapko manipulate karne ki koshish nahi kar raha, lekin informed rehne se aap interactions ko wisely handle kar sakte hain.

Introduction

Hamaari society mein kuch log aise hote hain jo doosron ko manipulate karte hain apne faayde ke liye. Imagine karo ki ek bohot attractive insaan tumhare saamne baithta hai aur kehta hai, "Tum sabse fantastic insaan ho jo maine kabhi dekha hai!" Tumhe lagta hai ye bilkul real hai. Vo tumse tumhare baare mein sab kuch jaan'na chahta hai, apni baat bilkul nahi karta, aur tumhe aisa feel karata hai jaise tum hi sirf important ho. Ye attention tumhe glow karati hai aur tumhe lagta hai jaise tumhe apna soulmate mil gaya ho. Ab socho, kya tum apne aap ko mirror mein dekh ke sach mein keh sakte ho ki ye sab tumhe affect nahi karega? Bahut mushkil hai aisa kehna. Ye insaan tumhe apni secrets bataega aur tumse tumhari sab secrets nikal lega.

Behavior Categories

• Thomas Erikson ne apni pehli kitab 'Surrounded by Idiots' mein DISC language ke baare mein bataya tha. Ye ek method hai jo human behavior patterns ko describe karta hai. Har type ka insaan ek color se associated hota hai:
• Red: Dominance
• Yellow: Influence
• Green: Stability
• Blue: Compliance

Ye colors insaanon ke behavior ko samajhne mein madad karte hain. Lekin sab log in categories mein fit nahi hote. Kuch log aise hote hain jo kisi bhi color mein fit nahi hote, unka khud ka asli personality nahi hota.

Psychopaths

Aise logon ko Erikson "psychopaths" kehte hain. Ye log doosron ko manipulate karte hain aur sirf apne faayde ke liye kaam karte hain. Ye log jhoot bolte hain, logon ko cheat karte hain aur apne aas paas chaos create karte hain. Ye log mostly intelligent hote hain aur kabhi kabhi jail nahi jaate kyunki ye apne aap ko cleverly chhupa lete hain.

Erikson kehta hain ki agar tumhe aise log milte hain to tumhe unse bachne ke liye kuch tools aur techniques seekhni chahiye.

Conclusion

Ye kitab tumhe sikhaayegi ki kaise aise manipulative logon ko pehchaan kar unse bacha ja sakta hai. Ye log tumhare aas paas hote hain aur tumhe unke signs dekh ke unse door rehna chahiye.

Chapter 1: What Actually Is a Psychopath?

Thomas Erikson kehte hain:

"Psychopath" shabd 1960s mein zyada popular ho gaya tha, lekin is subject pe pehli kitaab, "The Mask of Sanity" Hervey Cleckley ne 1941 mein likhi thi. Tab se lekar ab tak yeh kitaab lagatar print ho rahi hai. "Psychopath" shabd pe kai dino se discussions aur debates ho rahi hain, aur main yeh samjhaane mein zyada shabd istemal nahi karunga ki aisa kyun hai. Yeh shabd generally accept kiya jaata hai, lekin kabhi-kabhi ise galat tarike se istemal kiya jaata hai. Kai log bas un logon ko refer karne ke liye yeh shabd istemal karte hain jo unhe pasand nahi—woh damn psychopath—lekin yeh kaafi simplistic approach hai. Yeh common usage kaafi watered down ho gaya hai, jiski wajah se hum kabhi-kabhi bhool jaate hain ki real psychopaths actually exist karte hain. 1970s mein, Sweden mein, yeh shabd kaafi stigmatizing maana gaya, toh psychologists aur therapists ne ise express karne ke liye "in need of special care" ka expression use karna shuru kar diya. Yeh euphemism totally crazy tha—baad mein iske baare mein zyada—aur phir 1980s mein wapas psychopaths ko unke sahi naam se bulana shuru kar diya. Har waqt naye-naye euphemisms suggest kiye jaate hain, lekin ek dangerous baat yeh hai ki psychopath behavior ko fancy word ke peeche chhupa diya jaye jo koi samajh na sake. Is kitab mein, maine "psychopath" ya "psychopaths" shabd istemal kiya hai.

Psychopaths kya hain?

Psychopaths bina kisi shak ke baaki sab logon aur samaj ke liye danger hote hain. Yeh wolves hain jo ponies ban kar aate hain. Robert D. Hare, jo is subject pe sabse zyada respected researchers mein se ek hain, 1960s se is field mein kaam kar rahe hain aur bina kisi shak ke ek leading expert hain. Unhone duniya bhar mein travel kiya, psychopaths pe lectures diye aur ek checklist banayi psychopathic behavior ke liye. Unki opinion bahut clear hai: psychopaths exist karte hain, aur yeh zyada hain jitna hum sochte hain.

Lekin kya yeh waqai mein problem hain?

Psychopathy kam se kam schizophrenia jitni common hai. Difference yeh hai ki schizophrenia wale generally hospitals mein hain, lekin psychopaths mostly hamaare aas-paas hi hain aur humein pata bhi nahi chalta.

Yeh kitaab aapko sikhayegi kaise in manipulators ko pehchana jaaye aur apni safety ke liye kya steps liye jaaye jab aap kisi psychopath ke saamne aayein.

Yeh chapter ek tarah se warning hai ki psychopaths hamaare aas-paas hain aur humein unhe pehchanne ke liye aware aur alert rehna padega.

Chapter 2: Protecting Yourself: A Basic Defense Against Psychopaths

Surrounded by Psychopaths ka dusra chapter batata hai ki kis tarah se hum apne aapko psychopaths se bacha sakte hain. Pehli cheez jo samajhni zaroori hai, wo yeh hai ki ye log hamare aas paas hi hote hain aur unhe pehchanna bahut mushkil hota hai.

Basic Defense Strategies

• Awareness: Sabse pehle humein aware rehna chahiye ki psychopaths kaise log hote hain aur unki kya khasiyat hoti hai. Jaise ki unka charming hona, but andar se bilkul ruthless hona.
• Trust Your Instincts: Agar aapko kisi ke behavior mein kuch ajeeb lage, to apne instincts par trust karein. Yeh aapko danger se bachane ka sabse pehla aur natural tarika hai.
• Set Boundaries: Hamesha apne boundaries set karein aur unhe enforce karein. Psychopaths boundaries ko todne ki koshish karte hain.
• Seek Support: Agar aapko lagta hai ki aap kisi psychopath ke saath deal kar rahe hain, to apne friends, family, ya professionals se madad maangein.

Yeh basic strategies aapko initial protection provide kar sakti hain aur aapko manipulate hone se bacha sakti hain. Remember, aapko apne aapko strong aur confident rakhna hai taaki aapke upar kisi ka bhi negative influence na ho.

Chapter 3: Who Are the Psychopaths?

Psychopaths kaun hote hain?

Psychopaths ko pehchanna mushkil hota hai kyunki wo log bahut charming aur convincing hote hain. Ye log dusron ko manipulate karne aur unka nuksan karne me expert hote hain. Chapter me ek example diya gaya hai ek young aadmi ka jo university me kaam karta tha aur waha pe kaafi chaos aur problems create kar di thi.

Ek kahani:

Ek young aadmi ne university me kaam karte hue almost $100,000 churaye, do auraton ko pregnant kar diya aur department me bahut sare logon ke career aur zindagi ko disturb kar diya. Usne ek aurat ko sexual harassment ke jhoote case me fasaya aur dusri aurat ne affair ke reveal hone ke baad suicide karne ki koshish ki.

Psychopath ka behavior:

Ye young aadmi apne aap ko ek nice, likable guy dikhata tha. Wo sabko manipulate karne me successful raha aur do saal tak kisi ne use suspect nahi kiya. Uska har galti ka blame kisi aur pe hota tha.

Consequences:

University ke head ne mujhe bataya ki young aadmi ne police aur prosecutor ko convince kar diya ki paise usne department head ke kehne pe churaye the. Aur aakhir me, us young aadmi ko ek IT company me nayi job mil gayi jaha wo ek bade project ko lead kar raha tha.

Psychopaths ke tactics:

Psychopaths logon ko seduce aur deceive karte hain. Wo log jhoot bolte hain aur manipulate karte hain. Unka primary fuel dusre logon ko destroy karna hota hai.

Recognizing Psychopaths:

Thomas Erikson ne bataya ki aapko psychopaths ko pehchanna aur unse bachna seekhna hoga. Wo aapki weaknesses ko sniff out karke aapko nuksan pahunchate hain.

Practical Advice:

Aapko apni kamzoriyon ko protect karna hoga aur apne aas-paas ke logon par nazar rakhni hogi. Psychopaths ki asli pehchaan samajhne ke liye aapko unke behavior patterns ko identify karna hoga.

Chapter 4: Surrounded by Idiots? This Is How You Get Rid of Them

Is chapter mein, Erikson explain karte hain ki aap kaise deal kar sakte hain un logon ke saath jo aapko samajh nahi paate ya jo irrationally act karte hain.

Understanding Different Behavior Types:

Sabse pehle, Erikson batate hain ki humein alag-alag behavior types ko samajhna zaroori hai. DISC model ka use karke, wo logon ko chaar categories mein divide karte hain - Red, Yellow, Green, aur Blue. Har category ke apne unique traits hote hain.

• Red (Dominant) People: - Ye log bohot assertive aur controlling hote hain. Agar aapko inke saath deal karna hai, to clear aur direct communication best hoti hai. Inhe challenges aur competition pasand hai, to aap apni baat ko confidently aur succinctly rakhein.
• Yellow (Inspiring) People: - Ye log energetic aur enthusiastic hote hain. Inhe appreciation aur positivity chahiye hoti hai. Aapko inke saath friendly aur engaging tareeke se baat karni chahiye. Inki creativity ko acknowledge karna zaroori hai.
• Green (Stable) People: - Ye log calm aur supportive hote hain. Ye consistency aur harmony ko value karte hain. Inke saath patience aur understanding ke saath deal karein. Inhe abrupt changes pasand nahi aate, to changes introduce karte waqt inhe time aur explanation dena zaroori hai.
• Blue (Cautious) People: - Ye log detail-oriented aur analytical hote hain. Inhe facts aur data pasand hota hai. Inke saath logical aur structured tareeke se baat karein. Detailed information aur clear instructions dena inke liye important hota hai.

Strategies to Deal with Difficult People:

Erikson kuch strategies batate hain jo aapko difficult logon ke saath effectively deal karne mein madad karengi:

• Stay Calm: Hamesha apna cool banaye rakhein, chahe saamnewala kitna bhi irrational behave kare.
• Clear Communication: Apne thoughts aur expectations ko clearly express karein. Misunderstandings ko avoid karne ke liye specific aur concise baat karein.
• Set Boundaries: Clear boundaries set karein aur apne aap ko assertively protect karein. Kisi bhi unreasonable demand ke aage jhukne ki zaroorat nahi hai.
• Empathy Show Karein: Thoda empathy show karein, unke perspective ko samajhne ki koshish karein. Sometimes, understanding their point of view can help diffuse tension.
• Use Humor: Kabhi-kabhi thoda humor use karke bhi situation ko lighten kiya ja sakta hai. Lekin careful rahein ki aapki humor offensive na ho.

Conclusion: Chapter 4 mein, Erikson ka message clear hai - har kisi ko samajhna aur unke saath effectively communicate karna ek skill hai jo practice ke saath develop ki ja sakti hai. DISC model ko use karke, aap logon ke behavior ko better samajh sakte hain aur unke saath apne interactions ko effectively manage kar sakte hain.

Chapter 5: Manipulation Har Jagah Hai

Iss chapter mein author Thomas Erikson explain karte hain ki kaise manipulation hamare daily life mein har jagah hoti hai. Psychopaths, jo naturally manipulative hote hain, yeh techniques ko use karte hain apna kaam nikalwane ke liye.

Manipulation ke Types:

1. Direct Manipulation: Yeh type of manipulation tab hoti hai jab koi seedhe-seedhe aapko apne according act karne ke liye force karta hai. Jaise koi boss aapko directly bole ki agar aapne overtime nahi kiya, to aapki job risk mein hai.
2. Indirect Manipulation: Yeh subtle hota hai. Jaise kisi ka indirectly guilt feel karwana ya emotional blackmailing. Aapko realize bhi nahi hota aur aap manipulated ho jaate hain.
3. Emotional Manipulation: Isme aapke emotions ka use karke aapko control kiya jata hai. Jaise, koi aapke sympathy gain karke apna kaam nikalwane ki koshish kare.

Psychopaths ka Role:

Psychopaths in techniques ko master kar lete hain. Unka goal hota hai power aur control achieve karna, aur iss process mein wo kisi bhi hadd tak jaa sakte hain. Wo logon ke weaknesses ko identify karte hain aur unhe exploit karte hain.

Real-Life Example:

Erikson ek example share karte hain ek aise young man ka jo university mein kaam karta tha. Usne apne colleagues ko manipulate karke not only unke trust ko break kiya, but unki lives bhi ruin kar di. Usne fake accusations aur rumors failakar logon ko emotionally aur mentally breakdown tak pahucha diya.

Conclusion:

Author ka kehna hai ki aapko aware rehna chahiye apne surroundings se. Aapko samajhna chahiye ki manipulation sirf ek corporate world ya professional setting tak limited nahi hai, balki aapki personal life mein bhi hoti hai. Iss book ka aim hai aapko tools dena jisse aap aise manipulative logon ko pehchan sakein aur unse apne aapko protect kar sakein.

Chapter 6: Manipulation Ke Roop

Chapter 6 mein, author Thomas Erikson batate hain ki kaise psychopaths different manipulation techniques use karte hain. In tactics ko samajhna zaroori hai taaki hum apni protection kar sakein.

1. Charm and Charisma

Psychopaths bahut charming aur charismatic hote hain. Woh pehle apna ek positive image create karte hain taaki log unhe trust karein. Yeh charm sirf ek facade hota hai jo woh logon ko manipulate karne ke liye use karte hain.

2. Lying and Deception

Inka doosra major tool hai jhoot bolna aur dhokha dena. Yeh log bina kisi guilt ke jhoot bolte hain. Unhe apni baatein believable banane ka art aata hai, jisse log unki baaton mein fas jate hain.

3. Gaslighting

Gaslighting ek psychological tactic hai jisme yeh log aapko apni reality aur sanity par doubt karva dete hain. Yeh aapki baaton ko distort karke aur aapko confuse karke apni baat manwa lete hain.

4. Isolation

Psychopaths logon ko unke support system se alag karne ki koshish karte hain. Yeh isliye taaki unhe aur easily control kiya ja sake. Jab aapke aas paas koi nahin hoga jo aapko support de sake, aap unpe dependent ho jate hain.

5. Playing the Victim

Woh khud ko victim ke roop mein present karte hain taaki logon ki sympathy aur support mil sake. Is tactic se woh logon ki naram dil pe var karte hain aur apne favors lete hain.

6. Flattery and Compliments

Yeh log aapko flatter karte hain aur compliments dete hain taaki aapka confidence aur trust jeet sakein. Yeh ek manipulative tactic hai jisse aap emotionally vulnerable ho jate hain.

7. Blame Shifting

Jab bhi kuch galat hota hai, yeh log blame doosron pe dal dete hain. Apni galti kabhi accept nahi karte aur hamesha apne aap ko innocent dikhate hain.

8. Creating Drama

Yeh log unnecessary drama create karte hain taaki attention aur control hasil kar sakein. Isse woh logon ko emotionally exhaust karte hain aur apni marzi chalate hain.

9. Exploiting Weaknesses

Yeh log aapki weaknesses ko identify karke unhe exploit karte hain. Aapke insecurities aur fears ka faayda uthate hain taaki aapko control kar sakein.

Conclusion:

Thomas Erikson ka yeh chapter batata hai ki humein kaise psychopaths ki manipulative tactics ko pehchanna chahiye. Samajhna zaroori hai ki yeh log kaise operate karte hain taaki hum apni aur apne loved ones ki protection kar sakein. Samay par recognize karke hi hum unki tricks se bach sakte hain.

Chapter 7: The Dominant Red Psychopath

Introduction: Chapter 7 mein, Erikson ek aise psychopath ke baare mein baat karte hain jo dominant aur aggressive behavior dikhata hai. Ye log apne aaspas ke logon ko control karne ke liye kis tarah ke tactics use karte hain, ye samjhana is chapter ka main focus hai.

Red Psychopath ke Characteristics

Red psychopaths ka behavior typically aggressive aur controlling hota hai. Yeh log hamesha power aur control ke piche hote hain. Inka goal hamesha dominate karna hota hai, chahe wo business mein ho ya personal relationships mein. Inko logon ki parwaah nahi hoti, bas apne goals achieve karna unka maksad hota hai.

Manipulative Techniques

• Intimidation: Yeh log dhamki dena aur darana jaante hain. Yeh hamesha dusron ko apni baat manwane ke liye force karte hain.
• Bullying: Inka behavior aksar bullying type ka hota hai. Yeh apne targets ko mentally aur emotionally exhaust kar dete hain.
• Deception: Red psychopaths jhoot bolne aur sachai ko twist karne mein expert hote hain. Yeh dusron ko confuse aur mislead karte hain.

Impact on Victims

Red psychopaths ke victims ko kaafi problems face karni padti hain. Emotional stress, depression aur self-doubt common hain. In logon ke saath deal karna kaafi challenging hota hai kyunki yeh hamesha apne fayde ke baare mein sochte hain aur dusron ko exploit karte hain.

Protection Tips

1. Self-awareness: Apne aap ko pehchano aur apne strengths aur weaknesses ko samjho.
2. Boundaries set karo: Apni personal aur professional boundaries ko clearly define karo aur unko maintain karne ka try karo.
3. Documentation: Har conversation aur interaction ko document karo taaki agar zarurat pade toh aapke paas proof ho.
4. Seek Support: Friends, family aur professionals se help lo jab bhi aapko lage ki aapko support ki zarurat hai.

Conclusion

Chapter 7 mein, Erikson hume red psychopaths ke aggressive aur manipulative nature ke baare mein batate hain aur unse bachne ke kuch practical tips bhi dete hain. Yeh chapter aapko empower karne ke liye hai taaki aap aise logon se effectively deal kar sako aur apni life mein positivity aur peace bana ke rakh sako.

Ye tha Chapter 7 ka detailed overview. Aage ke chapters bhi isse related aur detailed insights provide karte hain jo aapko psychopaths se bachne mein madad karenge.

Chapter 8: The Charming Yellow Psychopath

Introduction: Chapter 8 me hum Yellow behavior aur psychopathy ke beech ki similarities aur differences ke baare me baat karenge. Robert Hare ki checklist ke according, "glib and superficial charm" aur "eloquence" typical psychopathic traits hain, jo kai Yellow logon me bhi dekhne ko milti hain.

Yellow Aur Psychopath Ke Differences

Yellow log kahaniyan exaggerate karte hain taaki woh entertaining lage aur log unhe pasand karein. Jaise ek dost Janne, jo apni kahaniyon me tadka lagata tha, lekin woh sach nahi hoti thi. Jab unhe expose kiya jaata, toh woh emotional aur gusse me aa jate. Par psychopaths aise nahi hote. Woh jhoot bol kar enjoy karte hain, aur unhe logon ko manipulate karne me maza aata hai.

Psychopaths ko jhoot bolte waqt koi guilt nahi hoti, aur woh bilkul calm rehte hain. Yellow logon ko jab confront kiya jaata hai, toh woh stressed aur emotional ho jate hain, lekin psychopaths remain unaffected.

Yellow Aur Psychopath Ke Common Traits

• Attention Seeking: Yellow logon ko limelight me rehna pasand hota hai, aur unhe stage chhodne me problem hoti hai. Psychopaths bhi apne aapko superior samajhte hain aur doosron ko push karke apne aapko competent dikhate hain.
• Stress Response: Yellow log stress hone par grumpy aur irritable ho jate hain, woh loudmouth aur blaming ho jate hain. Psychopaths stress differently handle karte hain. Unhe stress se farak nahi padta kyunki woh emotions feel nahi karte, aur woh cool rehte hain.

Manipulating a Yellow

Psychopaths Yellow logon ko manipulate karte hain unhe unke weaknesses ke against use karke. Jaise Yellow log selfish, superficial, aur forgetful hote hain, psychopaths in weaknesses ka faida uthate hain.

For example, agar ek Yellow ko bataya jaye ki unke dost ne unke baare me kuch bura kaha hai, toh Yellow hurt ho jate hain aur isolated feel karte hain. Psychopath phir unka last remaining friend ban jata hai, aur unhe manipulate karta hai.

Case Study: Lars and Anna

Lars ek happy-go-lucky insaan hai jo sabse baat karta hai. Woh Anna (psychopath) se milta hai, jo usse manipulate karti hai aur gradually uske friends aur family se dur kar deti hai. Anna Lars ko uske weaknesses yaad dilati rehti hai, aur uske emotions se khelti hai.

Conclusion

Is chapter me ye samjhaaya gaya hai ki humein intention aur behavior ko samajhkar hi kisi ko judge karna chahiye, aur hamesha vigilant rehna chahiye aise logon ke liye jo psychopathic traits dikhate hain.

Chapter 9: The Passive Green Psychopath

Introduction: Passive green psychopaths dikhne mein shant aur helpful lagte hain, lekin actually yeh log dusron ko apne benefit ke liye manipulate karte hain. Inka main method hota hai, dusron ki emotions aur feelings ko use karke apna kaam nikalna.

Kaisa Hota Hai Passive Green Psychopath?

1. Bohot Hi Shant: Yeh log bohot shant aur friendly dikhte hain. Inka behavior aisa hota hai ki sabko lagta hai ki yeh bohot caring hain.
2. Avoid Conflict: Yeh hamesha conflict se bachne ki koshish karte hain. Agar kisi situation mein tension ho, toh yeh chup rehkar ya smile karke situation ko avoid karte hain.
3. Indirect Control: Yeh direct order nahi dete, balki aapko aise feel karvate hain ki jo aap kar rahe ho woh aapki hi choice hai, lekin actually yeh apni baat manwa rahe hote hain.

Kaise Samjhein Ki Aapko Passive Green Psychopath Se Deal Karna Pad Raha Hai?

• Guilt Trips: Yeh log aapko guilty feel karvate hain. Jaise agar aapne kuch aisa kiya jo inhe pasand nahi aya, toh yeh chup rehkar ya indirectly aapko feel karvayenge ki aapne galat kiya.
• Silent Treatment: Agar aap inke according nahi chale, toh yeh aapse baat karna band kar dete hain ya phir aapko ignore karte hain.
• Sympathy Gaining: Yeh apne aapko hamesha victim dikhate hain taaki aap unke liye kuch bhi karne ko ready ho jao.

Kaise Bachenge Passive Green Psychopath Se?

1. Boundaries Set Karein: Clear boundaries set karein aur unhe follow karne pe zor dein. Yeh zaroori hai ki aap apni limits ko pehchanein aur unpe compromise na karein.
2. Assertive Banein: Apni baat ko confidently rakhein. Assertiveness ka matlab hai apne thoughts aur feelings ko bina kisi hesitation ke express karna.
3. Manipulation Samjhein: Yeh samajhna bohot important hai ki yeh log aapko kaise manipulate karte hain. Agar aap unki tactics samajh gaye, toh unse bachna easy hoga.

Conclusion

Passive green psychopaths ko pehchanna mushkil ho sakta hai kyunki yeh bohot subtle tareeke se manipulate karte hain. Lekin agar aap inki techniques ko samajh lein aur apni boundaries clear rakhein, toh aap apne aapko inke negative effects se bacha sakte hain.

Is chapter ka main focus: Yeh hai ki humein kaise passive green psychopaths ko pehchanna chahiye aur unse deal karna chahiye. Samajhna zaroori hai ki yeh log dikhne mein friendly hote hain lekin actually dangerous hote hain. Apne aapko bachane ke liye apni boundaries set karna aur assertive rehna bohot zaroori hai.

Chapter 10: The Meticulous Blue Psychopath

Meticulous Blue Psychopath

Characteristics:

• Detail-Oriented: Yeh log choti choti cheezon ka dhyan rakhte hain. Har cheez perfect karne ki koshish karte hain.
• Highly Organized: Inka kamra, kaam aur zindagi sab bohot hi organized hota hai.
• Calm and Rational: Yeh kabhi gussa nahi hote, hamesha shant aur logical lagte hain.
• Manipulative: Yeh apni planning aur details ka use karke dusre logo ko apne fayde ke liye manipulate karte hain.

Example:

Imagine Rohan, jo office me hamesha calm aur composed rehta hai. Uska desk hamesha saaf aur perfectly organized hota hai. Uske sath kaam karne wale log sochte hain ki woh bohot achha aur helpful hai. Lekin, Rohan apne colleagues ke weaknesses aur mistakes ko note karta rehta hai taaki woh unhe manipulate kar sake.

How They Manipulate:

1. Attention to Detail: Rohan har choti cheez ka dhyan rakhta hai. Agar uska colleague late aata hai, toh woh note kar leta hai aur baad me use karta hai apne fayde ke liye.
2. Calm Demeanor: Rohan kabhi gussa nahi hota, isliye log uspar trust karte hain. Lekin woh apne calmness ka use karke logon ko apni taraf kar leta hai.
3. Organizational Skills: Rohan apni planning bohot hi carefully karta hai. Har step soch samajh kar leta hai taki uski plan fail na ho.

Identifying a Blue Psychopath:

• Consistency in Behavior: Rohan hamesha organized aur calm rehta hai. Agar koi person hamesha aise hi rahe, toh ho sakta hai woh manipulate kar raha ho.
• Lack of Emotional Response: Agar Rohan kabhi bhi emotional nahi dikhe, even jab baaki log emotional ho rahe ho, toh yeh suspicious ho sakta hai.
• Control Freak: Rohan har cheez control karna chahta hai, chahe woh dusro ko directly nahi bataye. Woh subtly logon ko control karta hai.

Protecting Yourself:

1. Stay Organized: Apne kaam aur zindagi ko organized rakho taki Rohan jese log aapki mistakes ka fayda na utha sake.
2. Be Observant: Rohan ke behavior aur actions ko dhyan se dekho. Agar kuch unusual lagta hai, toh cautious raho.
3. Set Boundaries: Clear boundaries set karo. Rohan ko clearly batao ki kya acceptable hai aur kya nahi, aur uspe stick karo.

In short, Meticulous Blue Psychopath log bohot hi organized aur detail-oriented hote hain. Yeh calm aur logical dikhte hain, lekin dusre logo ko manipulate karte hain apne fayde ke liye. Aapko apni zindagi organized rakhni chahiye aur inki tactics pe dhyan dena chahiye taki aap unse bach sako.

Chapter 11: How a Psychopath Manipulates a Red Person

Psychopath ka Targeting:

1. Weaknesses ko Pehchanana:
   • Jaise ek boxer apne opponent ki weakness ko target karta hai, waise hi psychopaths Red logon ki weaknesses pe dhyan dete hain.
   • Red log confident aur aggressive hote hain, lekin apni flaws ko nahi dekh paate.
2. Manipulation Techniques:
   • Psychopaths aggression aur gusse se affect nahi hote. Woh shant rehte hain aur Red ke aggression ka fayda uthate hain.
   • Emotional react na karke, psychopaths Red logon ko bina unhe pata chale manipulate karte hain.
3. Red Logon ki Blind Spots:
   • Red log arrogant, aggressive, poor listeners, aur intolerant hote hain.
   • Psychopaths in traits ka use karte hain. Jaise, woh Red ka gussa doosron pe direct karte hain taaki apni true intentions chhupa sake.

Example Scenario:

Ek school ka example lete hain:

• Boy A, jo chhota lekin cunning hai, Boy B se pit jata hai.
• Boy A, Boy C (jo ek troublemaker aur short temper wala hai) ko batata hai ki Boy B ne usse insult kiya.
• Boy C gusse mein aake Boy B ko confront karta hai, aur Boy A ka plan successful ho jata hai bina Boy C ko pata chale.

Red Logon se Deal Karna:

• Psychopaths subtle moves aur unexpected tactics use karke Red logon ko manipulate karte hain.
• Woh direct confrontations se bachte hain aur situations ko manipulate karke Red ki trust jeet lete hain.
• Red log help nahi maangte aur problems ko akela solve karna chahte hain, isliye psychopaths unhe asani se manipulate karte hain.

Conclusion:

• Red logon ko apni blind spots ka dhyan rakhna chahiye aur manipulative behavior se bachne ke liye cautious rehna chahiye.
• Self-awareness ek accha defense hai aise manipulations se bachne ke liye.

Chapter 12: How a Psychopath Manipulates a Yellow Person

Introduction

"Yellow" log woh hote hain jo bohot cheerful aur outgoing hote hain. Unko social interaction pasand hota hai aur woh jaldi se logon par trust kar lete hain. Psychopath inke is nature ka fayda uthata hai.

Step 1: Gaining Trust

Pehla step hota hai trust gain karna. Psychopath pehle friendly banega aur aise behave karega jaise usko sab kuch samajh aata ho. Woh Yellow person ke har joke par hasega, unki har baat se agree karega aur unko feel karayega ki woh best friends hain.

Step 2: Emotional Manipulation

Jab trust ban jaata hai, psychopath apne asli rang dikhane lagta hai. Woh Yellow person ko emotional manipulation mein fasa leta hai. Example ke liye, woh unhe guilt feel karayega agar Yellow person ne uski kisi baat se disagree kiya. Woh bol sakta hai, "Main toh tumhara itna acha dost hoon aur tum mujhe aise treat kar rahe ho?"

Step 3: Isolation

Psychopath dhire dhire Yellow person ko unke real friends aur family se door kar deta hai. Woh aise situations create karega jahan Yellow person ko lage ki sirf psychopath hi unka sachha dost hai. Jaise, "Tumhare friends toh tumhe samajhte hi nahi. Tum mujhse baat karo, main tumhara real friend hoon."

Step 4: Control

Jab Yellow person fully psychopath par depend ho jaata hai, tab woh apni controlling behavior dikhata hai. Woh Yellow person ko har cheez mein manipulate karega, unko decisions lene se roke ga aur unki life control karega. Jaise, "Tum ye kaam mat karo, yeh tumhare liye acha nahi hai. Main jo bol raha hoon woh karo."

Conclusion

Yellow logon ko apne aap ko protect karne ke liye yeh samajhna zaroori hai ki har koi jo friendly hai woh unka dost nahi hota. Agar kisi ki behavior se woh uncomfortable feel karte hain, toh unhe us insaan se door rehna chahiye.

Note: Yeh chapter batata hai ki kaise psychopath Yellow logon ko manipulate karta hai. Apne emotions aur relationships ka dhyan rakhna important hai aur kisi bhi unhealthy relationship se door rehna zaroori hai.

Chapter 13: How a Psychopath Manipulates a Green Person

Introduction

Is chapter mein, hum dekhenge ki ek psychopath green type ke insaan ko kaise manipulate karta hai. Green log generally calm, supportive, aur loyal hote hain. Ye log conflict se door bhagte hain aur doosron ki khushi mein apni khushi dekhte hain. Unka yeh nature unhe psychopaths ke liye easy target banata hai.

Manipulation Tactics

1. Guilt Trips:

   Psychopath green insaan ko guilty feel karvane ki koshish karta hai. Example: "Tumhare bina toh main kuch nahi kar sakta. Tumhe hi meri madad karni hogi."

2. Emotional Blackmail:

   Emotions ko use karke manipulate karna. Example: "Agar tumne meri baat nahi maani, toh main bohot dukhi ho jaunga."

3. Isolation:

   Unhe unke friends aur family se door karna. Example: "Tumhara woh dost tumhe mere khilaaf bhadkata hai. Tumhe usse door rehna chahiye."

4. Using their Need for Harmony:

   Green log peace aur harmony ko bohot importance dete hain. Psychopath unki yeh need ko use karta hai. Example: "Tumhe conflict se nafrat hai, toh meri baat maan lo taaki sab kuch theek rahe."

Countermeasures

• Recognize the Manipulation:

  Pehle step hai manipulation ko pehchanna. Jab bhi aisa lage ki koi aapko emotional guilt ya blackmail kar raha hai, toh samajh jao ki yeh manipulation hai.

• Set Boundaries:

  Apne boundaries set karo aur unhe maintain karo. Psychopath ko clearly batao ki aapko kya cheezein acceptable nahi hai.

• Stay Connected with Support Network:

  Apne friends aur family ke saath contact mein raho. Unhe apne problems batao aur unse support lo.

• Seek Professional Help:

  Agar aapko lagta hai ki aap situation handle nahi kar paa rahe, toh professional help le sakte hain. Counselor ya therapist se baat karke solutions find kar sakte hain.

Note: Is chapter ka main aim yeh hai ki aap green logon ke manipulation techniques ko samjho aur unse bachne ke tareeke seekho. Apne nature ko samjho aur uska faayda uthane wale logon se door raho.

Agar aapko aur details chahiye toh aap chapter ko dubara padh sakte hain aur wahan diye examples aur scenarios ko samajh sakte hain.

Chapter 14: How a Psychopath Manipulates a Blue Person

Introduction

Blue log generally bahut logical aur detail-oriented hote hain. Inko manipulate karna mushkil hota hai kyunki yeh log facts ko yaad rakhte hain aur har cheez ko double-check karte hain. Psychopath agar Blue person ko manipulate karna chahta hai, to usko ek special approach leni padti hai.

Manipulation Tactics

1. Details ka Rakha Jaata Hai Dhyan:

   Blue log har baat ko yaad rakhte hain aur receipts aur emails save karke rakhte hain. Agar aapko kehna hai "maine holiday ke liye $1500 pay kiye hain", Blue person receipt mang lega. Inko sirf sahi amount hi dena pasand hai, na ki approximate amount.

2. Lies Ko Pakad Lete Hain:

   Psychopath chahe jhoot bole, lekin Blue person easily jhoot pakad leta hai kyunki woh details aur facts cross-check karte hain.

3. Emotional Manipulation Kaam Nahi Karta:

   Psychopath agar Blue person ko impress karne ke liye "tum bahut smart ho" bole, to Blue person itna jaldi flattery mein nahi aata. Yeh log sachai aur logic pe zyada focus karte hain.

4. Logical Aur Rational Approach:

   Blue person ko manipulate karne ke liye, psychopath ko logical reasons dene padte hain. "Yeh kaam isliye zaroori hai" ke peechhe valid reasons hone chahiye, tabhi Blue person believe karega.

Example

Ek Blue person ke boss ko yeh batana padta hai ki "Tumhare kaam mein improvement chahiye". Boss ne har baar kaam ka status note kiya hota hai aur feedback deta hai. Agar Blue person ko keh diya jaye "Tumhare performance thik nahi hai" bina kisi proof ke, to woh is baat ko nahi manega.

Lesson

Blue logon ko manipulate karna tough hota hai kyunki yeh log har cheez ko logical tareeke se dekhte hain aur verify karte hain. Psychopath ko har baat carefully aur logical tareeke se rakhni padti hai, tabhi Blue person ko influence kar paayega.

Note: Is chapter ka main point yeh hai ki Blue logon ke logical aur detail-oriented nature ko samajhna zaroori hai taki unhe psychopaths ke manipulative tactics se bachaya ja sake.

Chapter 15: Common Manipulation Techniques

1. Rationalization (Tarkikta)

Psychopaths apne galat behavior ke liye logical explanations banate hain. Jaise, "Main gusse mein tha, isliye maine maara" ya "Sab mard pornography dekhte hain."

2. Flattery (Chaploosi)

Psychopaths logon ki tarif karte hain taaki unhe manipulate kar sakein. Jaise, "Tum kitni khoobsurat ho!" ya "Tum kitne intelligent ho!"

3. Projection (Pratyavarti)

Woh apne khud ke bure qualities doosron par thopte hain. Jaise, "Tum hamesha late hote ho," jabki woh khud late hote hain.

4. Gaslighting

Yeh ek technique hai jisme woh aapko apne hi memory aur reality par doubt karvate hain. Jaise, "Yeh tumhara imagination hai, aisa kabhi nahi hua."

5. Playing the Victim (Bechara ban na)

Woh hamesha apne aap ko victim dikhate hain taaki aap unki help karo. Jaise, "Mere saath sab bura hota hai, koi meri madad nahi karta."

6. Guilt-Tripping (Guilt dena)

Woh aapko guilty feel karvate hain taaki aap unki baat maan lo. Jaise, "Tumhare wajah se sab kharab ho gaya."

7. Love Bombing

Yeh tab hota hai jab starting mein woh aapko bahut zyada pyar dikhate hain taaki aap unpe dependent ho jao. Jaise, "Tum mere bina kuch nahi kar sakte."

8. Triangulation

Woh teen logon ke beech tension create karte hain. Jaise, "Usne tumhare baare mein aisa kaha."

9. Silent Treatment

Woh aapko ignore karte hain taaki aap uncomfortable feel karo aur unki baat maan lo.

10. Isolation

Woh aapko aapke friends aur family se door karte hain taaki aap unpe dependent ho jao.

Note: Yeh kuch common techniques hain jo psychopaths use karte hain manipulate karne ke liye. Unse bachne ka best way hai unse door rehna aur unki baaton mein nahi aana.

Chapter 17: Recognizing Manipulation in Relationships

Understanding Manipulation Dynamics

Har relationship mein manipulation dynamics ho sakte hain, chahe woh personal ho ya professional. Is chapter mein hum dekhenge ki relationships mein kaise manipulation pehchani ja sakti hai aur usse kaise handle kiya ja sakta hai.

Types of Manipulation in Relationships

Relationships mein kuch common types of manipulation include:

• Guilt-Tripping (Guilt dena): Partner ko guilty feel karvake apni baat manwana.
• Gaslighting: Apne partner ko doubt dilakar unki reality ko manipulate karna.
• Isolation: Partner ko unke friends aur family se door karke unpe control paana.
• Threats and Intimidation: Dhamkana aur dara kar apne faayde ke liye partner ko force karna.

Signs of Manipulation

Kaise pata chalega ki aapka partner aapko manipulate kar raha hai?

1. Unwanted changes in behavior.
2. Feeling of being controlled or pressured.
3. Constant guilt or fear in the relationship.

Dealing with Manipulation in Relationships

Manipulation se deal karne ke liye kuch important steps:

1. Communication: Open aur honest communication rakhein.
2. Setting Boundaries: Apni boundaries clear aur enforce karein.
3. Seeking Support: Friends, family ya professionals se support lein agar zaroorat ho.

Real-Life Example

Ek married couple ka example diya gaya hai jahan ek partner dusre ko manipulate karta hai financial decisions ke liye. Is example se samajh aata hai ki relationships mein bhi manipulation common ho sakta hai aur usse kaise handle kiya ja sakta hai.

Conclusion

Yeh chapter relationships mein manipulation ko pehchanne aur usse deal karne ke tareeke batata hai. Saath hi, yeh bhi sikhata hai ki kaise ek healthy relationship maintain kiya ja sakta hai bina kisi manipulation ke.

Chapter 17: Agar Kuch Kaam Nahi Karta Toh Kya Karein?

Sachai:

Ek psychopath har 47 seconds mein paida hota hai. Yeh log kabhi nahi badalte aur inhe theek nahi kiya jaa sakta.

Samajh:

Kayi logon ko lagta hai ki woh ek psychopath ko "theek" kar sakte hain. Lekin yeh galat hai. Psychopath logon ko change nahi kiya ja sakta.

Kya Karna Hai:

1. Dur Rehna: Sabse zaroori cheez yeh hai ki aapko psychopath se door rehna hai. Yeh log aapko aur aapke close logon ko nuksan pahucha sakte hain.
2. Khud Ko Bachana:
   • Jab Aapko Samajh Mein Aaye: Agar aapko lagta hai ki aapke aas-paas ek psychopath hai, toh sabse pehle apne aap ko bachaiye.
   • Koi Negotiation Nahi: Inse baat karna ya samjhana bekaar hai kyunki yeh log apni galti ko kabhi nahi maante.
   • Contact Kam Karein: Inse jitna ho sake contact kam karein. Yeh log aapke friends aur family ko bhi aapke against kar denge.
3. Naya Environment:
   • Distance Banaiye: Agar aapka rishta ek psychopath ke saath hai, toh usse distance banaiye. Yeh mushkil hai, lekin zaroori hai.
   • Naya Circle: Naye logon ke saath time spend karein jo aapko support karein aur samjhein.

Example:

Ek vyakti apni relationship ko theek karne ke liye sab kuch try karta hai, lekin jab kuch kaam nahi aata toh woh relationship se bahar aa jata hai. Psychopath ke response se woh samajh jaata hai ki yeh log sirf apna fayda dekhte hain aur kabhi aapki value nahi karte.

Final Advice:

1. Social Media: Psychopath ko social media pe expose mat karein. Yeh log aur bhi fierce ho sakte hain aur aapko aur nuksan pahucha sakte hain.
2. Aapka Peace: Sabse pehle apne mental peace aur safety ka khayal rakhein. Agar kuch kaam nahi karta toh sab kuch chhod kar door chale jaayein.

Yeh chapter yeh batata hai ki agar sab kuch fail ho jaata hai, toh apne aap ko kaise bachaayein aur ek healthy environment mein kaise shift karein.

1. "Surrounded by Psychopaths" mein psychopaths ki ek aam gunaah kya hai?

2. Kaunsa manipulation technique istemal hota hai jab kisi ko guilt feel karvane ke liye?

3. "Surrounded by Psychopaths" ke anusar, psychopaths gaslighting ka istemal karte hain kisliye?

4. Kaunsa color-coded psychopath book mein charming aur socially influential tareeke se describe kiya gaya hai?

5. "Surrounded by Psychopaths" ke anusar, rozmarra ki manipulation se kaise deal karna chahiye?

6. "Surrounded by Psychopaths" ke anusar, kaunsa manipulation technique victim ko emotionally dependent banane ke liye use hota hai?

7. "Surrounded by Psychopaths" ke anusar, kis prakar ke psychopath apne aap ko victim dikhate hain?

8. "Surrounded by Psychopaths" ke anusaar, psychopaths kaunsi technique use karte hain jab woh dusron par apne bure gunaah thopne ki koshish karte hain?

9. "Surrounded by Psychopaths" ke anusar, psychopaths apne victims ko kis tareeke se isolate karte hain?

10. "Surrounded by Psychopaths" ke anusar, kaunsa psychopath apne logic aur rational arguments se manipulate karta hai?

11. "Surrounded by Psychopaths" ke anusaar, psychopaths kaunsa technique use karte hain jab woh dusron ko tension mein daalne ki koshish karte hain?

12. "Surrounded by Psychopaths" ke anusaar, kaunsa psychopath apne emotional manipulation ke liye famous hai?

13. "Surrounded by Psychopaths" ke anusaar, psychopaths kaunsa technique use karte hain jab woh dusron ko apni baat manwane ki koshish karte hain?

14. "Surrounded by Psychopaths" ke anusaar, kaunsa psychopath apne dominance aur aggression se famous hai?

15. "Surrounded by Psychopaths" ke anusaar, kaunsa psychopath apne charming aur inspiring behavior se famous hai?

16. "Surrounded by Psychopaths" ke anusaar, psychopaths kis tareeke se dusron ko apni baat manwane ki koshish karte hain?

17. "Surrounded by Psychopaths" ke anusaar, psychopaths kaunsa technique use karte hain jab woh dusron ko emotionally manipulate karne ki koshish karte hain?

18. "Surrounded by Psychopaths" ke anusaar, kaunsa psychopath apne logical reasoning aur facts se manipulation karta hai?

19. "Surrounded by Psychopaths" ke anusaar, psychopaths kaunsa technique use karte hain jab woh dusron ko tension mein daalne ki koshish karte hain?

20. "Surrounded by Psychopaths" ke anusaar, psychopaths kaunsa technique use karte hain jab woh dusron ko apni baat manwane ki koshish karte hain?

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